Thirty Day Blog Challenge - Yes I'll stick to it this time!

Day One - Your Current Relationship

*DISCLAIMER: Some of these titles I think are really personal and private so I will be taking my own spin on them*

The only thing I will say about my current relationship is that I really love him and I really enjoy his company. Any other details etc I think should stay private, however I will expound on why I think relationships are important, and keeping them close to your heart is even more important.

Relationships are the mechanisms through which we gain support and growth and encouragement. They are sacred and we need to remember to treat them as such. We should really take our cues from Jesus, and His super unconditional love for us all, otherwise we are definitely shortchanging ourselves.

Putting persons through tests and having them run through hoops and playing games with them; and setting them up for a 'three strikes and you're out' policy even before the person has disappointed is foolish and illogical. WE ARE HUMANS WE WILL FAIL EACH OTHER - very soon you will run out of persons who haven't disappointed you. We need to realize that a relationship can only really survive when we give and give and give and then give some more. A selfish or guarded approach to any relationship is setting it up for disaster, you are essentially forcing yourself to have the perspective where a mole hill seems like a mountain. This applies to any relationship - friendship, romantic or family relationship.

We need to learn to love persons for who they are, not who you want them to be or who you think they can be. We need to look at who the person is, all the good in them and the bad and choose to love that person, not the end result of what they can be after we're done fixing them or teaching them a lesson. Leave the character-building to God. Seriously, who are you to fix anyone's flaws?

Try encouraging someone and stroking their ego and giving of yourself to them (and no I do not mean this sexually) this week and see how much better you feel towards them and about the relationship. Shift your focus from all the things they aren't doing, haven't done and did wrong, to what you can do for them just to make them smile or make their lives a little easier. 

Adios!